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Originally Posted by awkwardlyyours
I also kinda felt like an idiot trying to give her examples of when parents might need help (not my case but I know folks who grew up dirt poor, basically subsistence living and then the kids made it big and bailed the whole family out) — Blondie said the parents should then just become wards of the state and threw in a “I don’t know if in your country it’s possible for social welfare to kick in”. Uhhh yeah, nothing like that exists.
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What the actual.
I think the kind of situation rr describes—kids not helping out, or squeezing elderly parents—is becoming more common, but Blondie is way ahead of the curve here. Kids get drafted into a pro sport in the US, paid millions as a bonus, and they’re
expected to do something for their parents—pay off their mortgage, move them out of a bad neighborhood, etc. And generally I think most people do help their parents (except in cases of abuse or financial need), and lots do it even then.
In what Blondie would call “my” culture it would be a matter of serious social shame for a child to be living well and the parent to be a ward of the state (which I think refers to someone mentally or physically incompetent to care for themselves, so she’s not even using the right phrase—next thing you know she’ll be talking about going into the poorhouse). The Greek verb for becoming a parent is middle voice—you have a child for yourself. You care for them when they’re young and vulnerable and they care for you when you’re aged and vulnerable.
I’m sorry this is one of Blondie’s potholes and it sounds like that means you can’t talk about it because she’ll take it personally.