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Originally Posted by Lrad123
Just sent an email to my T after our session with a delayed emotional response. Told him not to respond, so of course he’s not responding, and of course I’m a little sad about that. Pushing him away. Ugh. Here’s what I said:
“Please do not respond. Seriously. I don’t want to play the game where I wonder if you’ll respond or if your response is good enough. If I know you won’t respond it just takes the ambiguity out of it and makes it easier.”
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I say that to my T a lot, including the email I sent him yesterday. I don't see it as pushing him away. I do it for the reason you say - it takes the ambiguity out of it, and prevents me wondering whether or not he will respond. Also, I know that often his responses won't satisfy the very intense needs in me, and when they don't satisfy those needs I sometimes feel hurt, so it's better for me to tell him not to respond and save myself that hurt. I think it's part of taking care of ourselves.