AY, any chance that Blondie is just blowing smoke, that she's just trying to make you think it's expected for children to not help out, when that's not usually the case at all? If so, she can easily make the distinction that abuse trumps that obligation.

Honestly, I don't know anyone who doesn't look after their parents in some way when they need it (with the exception of ilk like my sibs).

I wish there were a way for you to talk to Blondie about this. It's so difficult when they don't understand, especially when they think they do.