I get the aggitation, but are you able to weigh out the pros and cons before the need to take flight arises? Are you able to at least hesitate before reacting and acknowledge what might be a better way to react? How does this affect your work? I am guessing you don't allow yourself to behave in such way in the workplace. I am sorry to not be very supportive but I am thinking about your wife. If you in fact don't do this while at work why is it okay to do so at home?