I'm curious, besides the obvious pragmatic (social) language deficits and lack of empathy you describe, do you exhibit any other traits associated with being on the spectrum?

Such as....sensory seeking/defensive behavior besides food texture. such as the need for sensory input or an aversion to loud/certain sounds or being touched by people/certain textures. restrictive/repetitive behaviors. issues with change in routine or stress when things don't happen as expected. any other executive functioning or processing issues besides following verbal instructions (is it easier for you if you have visual supports?)... these are all also possible other indicators to consider.

Also did you have a delay with any developmental milestones as a baby/child?... just trying to give you other areas to think about.