This is actually very true....without the diagnosis a person is EXPECTED to behave in a neurotypical way & if they don't they are looked at as an incapable idiot that can't even take care of themselves & people say...."you have a high IQ....what in the world is wrong with you....you have NO common sense."

I lived for 33 years with a H like this & without understanding that there was something that was really causing those problem behaviors for running a household it just caused fights rather than understanding. Most if those years were before Aspergers was even diagnosed & I'm not saying I would have wanted to live like that rven if I knew BUT at least I would have known what I was dealing with & not just thought he was being a total jerk.

I left & needed good therapy to recover from all those years of not understanding what I had been going through. With good therapy & tons of research all the behaviors fit into the ASD descriptions. I urged him to get a DX because his inability to be able to financislly care for himself became more obvious after I left. Sadly he refused & will end up homeless after the foreclosure on the house is final...he refused to get the help I tried to get him & they said eithout a diagnosis if he is able to make decisions it is his problem whether they are bad.

A diagnosis is important especially when it comes to relationships. The other person has a right to know what they are dealing with.