Dude. I think this is really a thing and it shouldn't be. A secure connection is not like a finish line that you cross and then you're home free, it's an ongoing process. We need to attend to our relationships and our T's should model this by stepping up to take care of their relationships with us. Especially when we've brought a concern to their attention.

EM I totally relate to you. I'm going through a similar thing with my T and finding it really painful. The most adult and rational part of me is constantly needing to remind myself that she's only human and has blind spots and is prone to messing up as we all are, while the neediest part of me is ready to give up on her for neglecting me so badly. I find it shreds me to talk about it with her partly because her confidence in the strength of our relationship or her knowledge of me makes her less on her game, less anxious, less focussed, less attentive, than she was when we didn't know each other as well.