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For me it is both. I lack control over a part that gets triggered and hijacks me. The control part is being able to plan everything out because that takes control. It takes control also to reach out to someone to help un-trigger me.
But yes when I am hijacked "self" definitely feels not in control and is sitting in the back seat holding on for dear life.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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