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Old May 27, 2018, 04:48 AM
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Originally Posted by Mouse_62 View Post
Over time you come to "know" the (m) other.
No one expects anyone to feel saee with someone they've not committed time to. That would be silly.
No matter what a T is always a stranger as we no so little about them. Even when they do disclose something I feel they might make it up because they think that is what we want to hear. So even if I spend 2 years with a T they are still do not know them. They can throw us under a bus at any given moment or dump us because they are tired of us.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.