This is interesting. I would not have any problem with a T (or anyone) farting or otherwise displaying ordinary human features. What I tend to have problems with is accepting and feeling 100% comfortable with similar things in myself - one reason I tend to be secretive and highly selective as to what I show others from myself. Be it bodily functions (or dysfunctions), even just stuff I am dissatisfied with, mess (I don't like to let most people in my apartment when it's messy, for example), I also have a tendency to procrastinate and hide work I am not satisfied with. Definitely a lot of this is related to being shamed and criticized in childhood - in my case not much by parents or family, more my peers (other kids). I still take criticism much better from superiors and authority figures (e.g. bosses, formal reviews on my work, etc) than more causally from people I see as equals.
Sometimes I do project the above perfectionism onto others - most often when I feel the most insecure and dissatisfied with myself. Basically, the mechanism is that I refuse to accept some of those things in myself but they still happen at times, and then I either want to hide or expect it from others. I am very aware of all this now but it does not completely prevent the feelings, the insecurity, and the reactions. Also does not help it that I have surrounded myself with high-achieving, high-demand, critical environments in my whole life deliberately. So it can be tricky to deal with the whole baggage as I want to be able to be more gentle with myself but at the same time I don't, and I do need to meet certain standards ~constantly to function well in my environments of choice. An often really nice and effective relief is seeing people that I respect and regard highly, engaging in "sub-standard" behaviors similar to mine. It definitely does not work with just anyone though.
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