Hey Debbie, I get what you are saying and I agree that we don't know this "MOTHER" I also understand the point about not giving ammo as I tried to state. There are 2 things I want to express here. One is that I was always trying to get approval from that parent even though I knew it wouldn't come. I shared things like the old retriever is sick and doing this and I am thinking of putting her down, and that parent would call me cruel for letting dog suffer though we lived 250 miles apart she knew everything and I was always bad or wrong. So, I suspect that our expecting friend might have been trying to get support in an off kilter kind of way, just as I did. But, is the support ever going to be there? That is the question. Yes, one's sexuality need not be discussed but if you are still seeking approval maybe that little piece is thrown in to make a point about support or to self sabotage the response. I don't know, only what I experienced can I share.

I never told grandmother anything that would make her uncomfortable. She was way racist and hated the ethnicity I ended up marrying into. I didn't need her support, I had it, I knew she loved me no matter, even if she was a racist. Am I making sense Rainbowz and Debbie? BTW Debbie, good to see you.