I also feel my life is so outside of the norm that it is difficult to find compatible people to be friends with. That is one reason I spend time on anonymous forums. I had tried going to meetups for years but never made a lasting friendship although there were a number of starts that just didn't work out because we were not that compatible.

I feel that I don't have a sense of community except for the online forums I participate in. If I were a religious person then I could find a house of worship that offered community. If I were sporty I could join a slo pitch softball league or play soccer in a club. My main problem at the moment is that I have lost interest in most activities. I agree with the other posters to focus on activities and meeting people through shared enjoyment of what you are already doing without expectations of what it might lead to.