WW,
Yes, what you are saying makes perfect sense. It is sad that we attempt to get approval, or even attention by doing thing we know are going to get a response....even if it isn't a positive response, at least it's a response.

I think the support they are expecting to get will never be there. Sometimes we expect something that isn't possible & keep trying to beat our heads against the wall to get it. Some people have the ability to support in ways that aren't what we exactly want either & some people don't have the ability to give any support.

It is sad that people have children when they aren't capable of being a parent. It is sad that we have to take a test & have a license to drive a car, but when it comes to being a parent & having a child that we don't even have to be a responsible person or know anything about caring for another human being. As children, we learn to cope with our situations as best as possible & most of the time, our coping skills are that of the child we are....sadly, those coping skills have a way of sticking with us for the rest of our lives. Even with therapy, it's hard to change the coping skills we learned as a child because they have become such a part of our lives & even though they didn't work, learning change is the most difficult thing one can ever have to do.

Usually people who are intollarant of a behavior haven't taken the time to really know why they feel the way they do....which is why they have a tendency to be rude in their responses. When one is capable of truely knowing why they feel the way they do about something & have taken the time to think it through, they are usually able to express themselves to others in a way that is acceptable rather than throwing out rude words. Sadly many people approach life this way & it only makes being a parent even worse because they can't express to their children the important knowledge of other points of view & be a good example of how to accept & handle other points of view.

Good to see you too, WW.
Debbie