Esme - thanks for such a descriptive picture. His office DOES feel like a safe place. No weird smells and sights attacking his clients. Now i understand my t's attitude about the the trumpet player who moved in recently. And the dentist who was there a few years ago. I wonder if a bunch of ts voted him out!

Now, seriously, when can he check in with you? When you are with your boyfriend? When you're in a meeting with a client? Wouldnt that be intrusive? I mean, the fantasy is good, but the practicality is not. Maybe its just me (or my horrible relatives etc), but nobody "understands" why your t is calling you. So what does the fantasy MEEEEAN? Its kinda the antithesis of the safe session space. How to drop a big bubble of it into your regular life.