I apologize for my lack of clarity in my post, which you quoted, pacsmack. I was referring for you as the only actor to review the breakup and its circumstances because you (not others, including I) possess the insight. For me and anyone else, at most, we barely have any bits and pieces of what transpired and how through messages on an online forum. The info is limited as is insight since we were not there for the event(s). So, it is extremely difficult for anyone else to try to determine if you were abandoned or not.

With that said, when you write, "...one for each situation," to what are you referring if you are ok with replying? Also, have you asked yourself and/or her what "rules?" You write that "everything is much clearer now." So, do you have a perspective on if she abandoned you or not? Does it not matter to you?