So my family members sometimes come from their home country to visit us. I don't have a problem with that. The problem is that they pop up announced and they say, "We're only staying for 2 days." Two days become 3 then 4 then 5, etc. That's what happening right now.

Don't get me wrong. It's cool to see my family members. The issue is that some of them are homophobic (they don't know I'm gay) and ableist (they don't know I have mental health issues). They don't like hearing opinions that aren't theirs so the few times I say something, they ignore me.

Another issue is that they always take my mom's room since it's the biggest one and my mom sleeps in my room. My room is very small with a twin bed. So it's uncomfortable. I don't mind it when my mom comes over for one night. But I'm 26 now (that's so embarrassing to say) and I'm saving up money to move out but it's hard for us millenials. When I was in school, my relatives would just pop up when I had midterms and it is very hard to study in a room with another person, so I would sometimes just study outside. We have a big futon, but my mom doesn't want anyone to sleep on it. Why? I don't know.

Now, I don't want to make it sound as if I'm selfish. It's one thing if they lived down the street but another country is a whole different thing. When they come we have little time to go out and buy more food, run errands, etc. Everything gets flipped upside down.

What makes this time worse is that my mom has a bit of an attitude because she got some bad news. So she's been snappy and she'll make these jokes that aren't jokes, and when I get defensive she gets mad.

I'm also in a bad headspace. I'm not feeling great mentally.

I feel bad whenever I get annoyed when my family members come but sometimes I can't deal with the ableist and homophobic comments and then my grandma makes fun of me to show people that she's funny and it's just very annoying.

My mom already knows I don't like it when they just pop up out of nowhere but it's her house so I abide by her rules. I don't even want to sleep on the couch because she'll get upset and offended.

Am I the only one who doesn't like it when family members pop up unannounced? =/