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Originally Posted by starrysky
So, it sounds to me like a natural thing for someone to hold another at arms length if they liked someone, and that person said "let's just be friends." So my guess is, yes, thats what he's doing. Moving on. You could always ask him, and then find your answer, though.
It sounds like you doubt yourself a LOT. I can relate. But if someone wasn't supportive of you and your anxiety, that to me sounds like you made the right decision about him and breaking it off. It might benefit you to talk about this in therapy, too (if you're in therapy).
One more thing is that I wonder if you have not enough to do. Do you feel busy enough? It sounds like you are dwelling on this.
It is my opinion that there are many people for us. (aka, there's many people out there who are a good fit for us!) Also, if it's meant to be, it will be.
I say, go ahead and ask him, if it will ease your mind. Who knows why he was unable to look at your message. It makes sense to me that he'd pull away. But who knows. Do you have other friends? I suggest you distract yourself with them and do some things you enjoy to take your mind off him and the anxiety you feel around it.
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Thank you so much for this
I definitely am not busy at all - I have people close to me who suggest I take all the free time I have and use it to let myself worry about things. I'm definitely in therapy haha, it's going well BUT I won't have another session until 4 weeks because of my progress - my therapist has suggested I call her if I need an earlier appointment. Would you suggest I do this??
I've messaged him "Hey, how's things" and hopefully if he reads it we can go into how I feel like I've explained here... But what you say makes so much sense. If he truly did like Me, pulling away to get over it makes so much sense because that's exactly what I would do
And yeah I'm doubtful regarding my decision not to see him anymore... I wonder if I could've given him more of a chance?? Then again not understanding/bothering with/caring about my GAD doesn't make him a total match as you say. But I like to think some people can change
Hoping I can move on from this purgatory I'm trapped in with him.
thank you again and to everyone else for the replies x