Yep, I completely understand. Mine seems quite engaged until it's time to end (I even had to point out that time was up recently). But then after we schedule (using our phones), he goes over to his desk and I pay him. He usually stays sitting to shake my hand, and I imagine he stays at his computer to type notes about the session, check his e-mail, maybe check notes on his next client. I told him one time about how it can be difficult for me to just sort of switch things off when I leave (which is why I have a tendency to e-mail). He seemed a little surprised and said he could try to do a better job of wrapping up, so I'm less likely to leave feeling raw. I guess he's sort of done that? Though we've ended on some pretty intense notes before....If nothing else, he at least understands better why I e-mail and has reassured me a few times recently that I can still e-mail when needed, that his policy hasn't changed (charges if they take him longer than 15 minutes to read/respond to but otherwise fine).


I think it's worth talking about with your T. Does he allow any outside contact?

It seems really rude (and slightly cruel) to me that all these Ts are just saying, "OK, see you next week" and then turning away from you to reach for a phone or computer. Is that really what's happening?

My current T stays present with me all the way to the door of her office. She stands up, walks to the door (of her individual office, not the main door to the building), opens the door for me, and usually says something friendly and cheerful ("Have a good week!", "See you next week!", "Drive carefully!" - etc)

If my T just cut me off like that at the end of the time, and literally turned away, that would really bug me. It would make it harder to open up, and feel kind of rejecting. I'm sorry you are all dealing with that.