I have a history of child abuse and most recently incredibly painful therapist abuse/abandonment and job loss.

I have a "friend" who keeps telling me that "Everyone is dealing with c^&p" and "We have all felt alone and tortured at times," and other such platitudes.

I guess she is right in that everyone has challenges in their life, but when she tells me that I just have to figure it out on my own, it seems like such a fundamentally wrong response.

If feels like she is telling to me to just deal with it like everyone else has to deal with it.

I'm trying to weigh the amount of truth in what she is saying against how unhelpful it is and figure out a way to respond to her that is reasonable and thoughtful.

Any thoughts?