And together with being the center of the drama, if there isn’t any drama then they create it. There’s a lot of power in being able to turn minor problems into crises and emergencies. The last couple of years I was living with my wife she must have told me dozens of times I needed to take an emergency family medical leave to deal with my younger daughter who was “spinning out of control” but only my wife believed that, and when various psychiatrists and social workers told her she might be part of the problem she became enraged. Even more drama. It was like some wierd narcissistic Munchausens by proxy.