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Originally Posted by starryprince
She, AGAIN, brought up her homophobic friends and she said, "One of them is very homophobic and she beats her son if he only does something that's deemed a bit feminine because she's so afraid of him turning gay. And we're really good friends." So I was shocked and I blurted out, "She BEATS her son?" And she said, "Well, not really beat but jostles him around."
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Just want to address this part. It's abuse. I've witnessed it done frequently to a sibling and it's abuse. Your therapist not saying "that's wrong"...plus other comments you've described about her... she's not a safe person. You're better off looking for a genuinely LGBTQ affirming therapist. Many say they ARE, when they're not.
Personally I would find it extremely painful to work with a therapist who thinks it's OK to beat a gender non conforming kid for gender non conforming behaviour. That's abuse. And personally I cannot be friends with that people who think such abuse is OK.
And why do some people, including some therapists, like to push forgiveness? Forgiveness is NOT a prerequisite to healing, nor is it necessarily a goal "everyone should have". . If it happens, it happens.
Empowerment is so critical for us survivors and your therapist is being really harmful.
Some people say this kind of pushing that your therapist is doing is spiritual abuse.
I've a non binary friend who had to ditch several therapists before finding one that's a good fit. Their therapist is one who understands and treats complex trauma from various abuses including CSA, plus is a qualified gender therapist.
Best of luck. You deserve better.