No, no , no. The therapist is not well trained in trauma at the very least, or is a bad apple Imo. That is hurtful and dehumanizing, both her invective to "pardon" and her weird off pitch stories about her psycho friend. I have literally never written this before: you have to fire her. I agree with quiet mind she is an unsafe person, and there ARE safe people for you.

Years ago, I had a student transition. He was born as an intersex person, and his parents made th e decision to make him a girl, and he lived as a girl until puberty. My class of 12th graders were so respectful and listening; he would say as someone intersex, my view on this passage in the novel is xyz, and the other kids would engage that as a legitimate and valuable viewpoint, and there was a ton of peer pressure to do so.

I feel like your T is giving you less safety than my class.

Your T should understand herself thoroughly if cisfemale yes, but even if she hasn't iexplored within herself and out into culture, there's a level of empathy beneath which sh falls not just as a T but as a human, from your description.

Sorry for being fired up about this, maybe more than is helpful. I just feel we are all vulnerable in the patient/ T relationship, and they are called upon to honor that.