Ah, Velcro, I can totally relate. And like some of the other posters have mentioned, starting to see a different therapist at that point is what eventually really helped me (though not without a whole lot of drama and turmoil leaving the first one).

Not knowing your full story, it's hard to tell whether you're at that precipice because of some repetition and/or reenactment with your therapist, or because of feeling depressed (in part as a result of the therapy?), or you're not feeling heard by your therapist (she's pushing self-compassion, but it really doesn't fit with how you feel about yourself), or, or...any number of reasons.

From my own experience (and this is insight gleaned in retrospect), when I have felt like things are in such a black and white space in therapy it's been because of all of the above. I wonder if it's something your therapist can help you explore. Just recently, after my thousandth time of expressing ambivalence about leaving therapy, my therapist suggested that we treat the impulse to quit as information that's not really about quitting, and using it as a starting point for gaining more understanding. Which, like you said, when written out has a huge "duh" factor.

I'm getting rambly. Past my bedtime. The upshot of all of this is that I can empathize. And I'm happy to provide support in whatever form might be useful.