I tell my T what I need from her. It does help her be a more effective t for me. I don't know what it helps her be a better T in general, but it takes the guesswork out of relating to me for her!

In that sense, sure I help her be a better T - for me. I tell her "when x happens it would helpful for me if you could do y" and "When Z happens please don't respond with X because I react to that by P. It would be better to F."

Makes therapy life much easier.