I have been reflecting more on the thought provoking replies people have given. One of my thoughts is that I should consider that the conversation I'm planning to have with my T is about my therapy only, and how she is with her other clients is irrelevant to me.

Quite a few of the replies expressed the view that she should know herself from her training how to give me what I need and I should walk away and find another T. An alternative view is that perhaps we have too high expectations of therapists, and expect them to be perfectly skilled at their job?

My T does have positive attributes, one of those is that she has expressed that is will be very responsive to what I say I need from her (I haven't really expressed much yet to her, so I don't know how this will turn out in practice).

Ididitmyway- thanks for your thought provoking post. I guess if she doesn't adapt as I hope she will, and I kept hoping that she would, then I should definitely walk away from her.

Erebos, I completely agree with your post. I'm not thinking that I will be teaching her, just having a conversation.

I've been thinking that we can place our T's on a pedestal. I am definitely not placing her on a pedestal right now. Could that be a healthy thing that I am considering that we both have a big part to play in figuring out how we will work together, rather than me considering her to be the expert in this, and me the powerless recipient?