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Originally Posted by ruby2011
Hey guys, I have complained about this fast food supervisor who got mad bc I "looked up to her" and "really liked her." Turned out it was really bc I overstepped boundaries and stalked her (without really intending to). Long story short, she stopped liking me. Hell, she don't give a rats *** about me.
My question is, when people gets mad enough to never wanna see you again, is there any chance they'll come back around eventually? Other people that I looked up to also reacted the same way as this supervisor. It's been several years now and these people still won't come back around but eventually one of them will, right?
Maybe I just need to give them lots of space.
Another question is, if anything good happens to me, would they care? Like if I receive a promotion, get engaged/married, etc. They seemed to care when their other colleagues (current and former) goes through good times and bad times.
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No, they will not come back around. If a scorpion stings you do you go back and see if it will sting you again? No, you just stay away and stay safe.
No, they will not care if anything good happens to you because you are not part of their lives. They do not spend time obsessing over you the way you continue to obsess over them. If they hear something good happened, then maybe they'll think "good for her" but they won't dwell on it or reach out or anything. It's not part of their life, so they aren't going to even think about it.
The kind of space you need to give them is letting it go, moving on, making new friends and learning how to behave appropriately with them. You burned your bridges with those other people, meaning you can't cross back over them.
Are you talking to your therapist? Why are you still obsessing about these people?
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