I'm sorry you're having this experience with your hubby. I'm a hubby... & I have a tendency to do what your husband does. I'm aware that I do it & I do try to guard against it. But sometimes it does slip through anyway. I don't know how old your husband is. That may be relevant here. Or perhaps he's just tired. Not knowing more about the circumstances, there's not much else I think I could say.

I do think this is something it would be good for the two of you to talk through. If you each understood where the other is coming from, & could work out some "ground rules" for handling these sorts of situations, perhaps hurt feelings & frustration could be avoided. But I know how it can sometimes be though. My wife & I aren't the best at talking these sorts of things through either. My best wishes to you both...