I so understand what you're saying and thought similar at times while in therapy, and also in hindsight (being graduated almost two years).

I think there's some truth to what you're saying, but in hindsight it was so necessary for me to make the strides that I did.

For instance, I did go thru the "woe is me" and "it's mother's fault", but I had to to understand and manage. In hindsight, it was all worth it because I was able to develop much more healthy (and sweeter) relationships (even with mother) and understand better my role in them, not to mention my coping skills for triggers during communication, etc.

So, yes, I did see that happen and, yes, I'm glad overall that it did.

I guess just like anything else in this world (from eating and drinking to sleeping), it's about managing what we do and avoiding extremes.

I wish you well and so understand where you're at with this right now.

KD