Goal setting is one thing, but beating yourself up because "everyone" is doing better than you is something else entirely.

Maybe--just maybe--you don't have to be perfect or make a lot of money. You could just be yourself. You don't have to put yourself under all that pressure to "be somebody."

I live near a big R&D area and kids at my daughter's high school were pushed to go into STEM or medical jobs. I looked at her and her friends and told them,"Not everyone is cut out to be an engineer, doctor, or scientist." There is also a big gap in trades and more people are making their living doing their own thing. My daughter is learning to become an interpreter for the deaf, in addition to doing drawings for commissions.

Just do what you do best.