My therapist does. He has nothing good to say about my mother. It's ALMOST a joke between us, except for the fact that it so negatively impacted my life in so many ways, but it's almost a joke that my mother was the absolute worst advice giver. It's like, whatever she said, you should do the opposite. Unfortunately, she would threaten your life if you didnt follow orders.

So yeah, therapists can identify stuff like that. But how they help you through it, thats where its hard to find someone you can work with. Who offers unconditional positive regard, and who doesnt retraumatize you. I tend to laugh a lot, so ts always thought i was okay, but i wasnt. Finally, this t, i told to slow down, and i explained how previous ts didnt understand. I said "you guys always" a lot! A good working relationship doesnt happen instantly, but i found a couple of things i liked about him and i held onto those things during the rough periods.