Um... “verbally abusive” doesn’t really cover this: “abusive” does. His behavior is the way it is right now, so the question you need to ask yourself is, What part of his behavior will change if nothing changes? Even if he apologizes, or has apologized, will the behavior change? Apologies and forgiveness are Good, but if he apologizes for his behavior and you forgive him, part of that contract is an expectation that he’s going to do something to change his behavior. I kept excusing my wife’s verbally abusive, eventually violent behavior, but she didn’t really change. She would apologize and beg forgiveness and I would forgive her and try to explain she needed to change her behavior. It was my fault too: I hated trying to talk to her about her bad behavior when times were good because I didn’t want her to go ballistic. But in the end that’s all it became: me trying to avoid having her go ballistic. Zero happines. Just fear, misery and occasional relief at having avoided another disaster. Not a great way to live. We’re separated and things are so much better for me now..