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Originally Posted by golden_eve
I felt the same way about my ex fiance. I felt responsible for keeping him alive. Then I realized that what I had was very toxic to my health, so I kicked him out and he became homeless. He was homeless before I took him in, so he was in the same position he already was in.
Thing is, you are not helpless. You can make choices here. You can choose to ask him to leave. You cannot be fully responsible for this person's life. He is not your child. You are not obligated like you would be with a child. But you are taking him on as just that -- a child you need to take care of. By keeping him there, you are enabling his dependence on you. You need to break free of that mentally and save yourself from drowning. Your mental health should come first.
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Thank you. I am actually going travelling now without him which took a huge amount to do, and he strongly resisted and became extremely upset but it’s happening. I have told him we will meet up in 3 months and he’s set on that but I’m looking forward to the break even though the guilt is killing me. He really feels like a child and I feel fully responsible for him, so it’s nice to hear from someone else whose been through similar! Can I ask what happened to your ex fiancé in the end? Did you get over the guilt of feeling responsible?