Thanks for sharing. When you mentioned this to your T, she interpreted it as you could perhaps be bisexual?
I think the core in this is that the care and comfort that T gives is given to "the little child" within us and some of it reaches that child but our adult selves easily connect that to something that is given by a partner. I now mean a close hug or holding hands, both happen as a kind of care in a therapeutic situation (if your T gives hugs and holds your hand) but it can also awaken attraction.
Did your attraction fade by itself or have you regularly talked with your T about it?
I donīt feel this so strongly so I feel the need to bring it up, if it begins to disturb the sessions I would. I donīt want her to withdraw from kind gestures ,which has nothing to do with creating attraction, because she thinks I see this as a problem.
Even if it can be a bit hard sometimes to think about this I also see it as something positive that has happened in our therapy process.
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Originally Posted by rainbow8
Yes! I'm a woman and I've been seeing my female T for 8 years. I've posted in the past about my physical attraction to her. I used to talk with her about my part who was "in love with her." She has a beautiful smile and pretty hair. I also noticed when she wore a top that showed her breasts. We discussed this in my sessions and she told me about sexual fluidity, and even if I could be bisexual. I don't think I am. I never wanted sex with my T but wanted comforting, so it got mixed up in mind, especially when she looks good to me.
My attraction to her has lessened through the years, though sometimes when she smiles and has her hair the way I like it, the feeling hits me and I have trouble concentrating in my session. But that's rare now because our relationship has changed. She feels like family to me now and I love her. It's more natural. I think my medical problems have something to do with it too. It doesn't matter what T looks like; I just need her caring and support.
Did you ever discuss your attraction with your T? It's just like any other topic though I know it's embarrassing. It could be helpful. Otherwise, try to just accept that it's normal and enjoy the feelings!
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