Thanks for the responses above. She doesn't hear direct from me about things because she doesn't stay in touch with me. I feel stupid calling someone who never calls me. When it got to be me who called and never her, I took the hint. I never want to bother anyone who prefers not to be bothered.

My dog died in 2006. The first person I called was her. I thought we had a normal conversation. I was at the veterinarian and my dog died during surgery. I didn't heavy up on her or keep her long on the phone. A year later she said I highly offended her. She claims I said that the loss of my dog meant the loss of my only friend in the world. She said that was highly insulting to her. I never said any such thing because I never thought such a thing. But, if someone in a state of grief uttered such a maudlin sentiment, I'ld chalk it up to a foolish statement that a person suddenly plunged into grief might be allowed. However I never said any such thing.

This alienation has gone on for over 15 years. I've walked on eggshells trying not to offend her. I give up.