Hi community, hope this is the right place to ask. Let me know otherwise.

I wanted to ask either specialists here or people knowledgeable on the issue about incels.

One thing that draws my attention about incels is how they claim their issues are beyond their control. For come cases this there's most likely alternatives to try, but should I assume this is always incorrect?

This leads me to extrapolate an overall question: when it's enough to consider an issue is out of control or not? Also, is there a difference in the person itself to give his/her own meaning for such a solution, or is the person assumed to have his will overruled and instructed how to proceed?

Greetings!