I have a tendency to blame myself for everything that goes wrong... Now that I'm working through a breakup, I've decided I'm not going to do that anymore. I'm not taking the flak for my ex coming back again and again to someone who was unavailable. That's on him. I didn't force him into anything. I have to believe he stayed for as long as he could bear it, till he reached his personal tolerance threshold, and it's up to him to figure out why he did that if he needs to. It's none of my business.

It's also none of my business how long it's taken for him to let go. I couldn't have helped him with that at all. I think I would have just been in the way, to be honest. And I had my own traumas and troubles to deal with. They are my responsibility. He's not.