He was actually the one doing most of the work. I was simply too messed up to be in a relationship, never should have let it get as far as it did. He didn't blame me for anything, but I have. For the things I did or didn't do but also for hurting him too badly. But that's not all on me. He made his choices and could have left sooner. I don't think he gives me a second thought these days and I, too, have to stop blaming myself for things that weren't my responsibility.