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Jun 02, 2018, 11:20 AM
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Member Since: Apr 2014
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Originally Posted by FallDuskTrain
Coffee house is supposed to be light hearted chat that is why I go to the coffee house because I do not want to deal with the emotional pain, triggers, darkness that comes with the forums. I am too sick for it. And this is my personal decision. Again coffee house is for lighthearted chat and it is not to discuss your deepest troubles. For that, you go to to ES. And there are always people who are willing to help. Always. Therefore one has to accept that it is a normal behavior when chatters in the coffee house ask you to take your troubles to the ES chat room.. It is called ‘following the guidelines.’
Also, I remember vividly that one day, yourself refused to go to the ES chat room when someone asked for support because you had said that you were having a tough day. That was your response on that particular day.
And if you find the topic of food triggering, how do you think some chatters feel when others talk about politics or deep personal struggles? Politics, religion and topics alike can be deeply personal for some members, including myself.
So in summary, the coffee house has a purpose of being a room for light hearted chat, which means the topics will be limited to light hearted conversations. simple as that.
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Thank you for saying this, Fall. I am very grateful for the guidelines surrounding chat topics. I don't need intense debates on controversial topics when I come here. If I want that I can easily find a Facebook group or other forum/chat room to do that and give me that kind of stress.
I come here to chat mostly to keep things light and have some distraction from the very difficult things I have to deal with in my life and with my MI. If I need support, I ask to go to ES. If I want to discuss something serious or more adult, but not ES, I ask others to go to ES with me. It's rare that no one comes along. A few weeks ago some of us were having a discussion that included some discussion of sex, but was within the guidelines, and so we went to Adult Chat so we wouldn't upset anyone. It's really not that difficult to be polite and conscientious about what you're saying and where.
The purpose of PC chat is not to be able to talk about whatever you want. It's first and foremost a site to support those with MI, as DocJohn says repeatedly. If you want/need something else, then find the appropriate venue for that. Don't force it on us.
That's my two cents.
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Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia.
Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien
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