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Originally Posted by awkwardlyyours
In therapy (and applies as well, to stuff outside of therapy) --
Do you wish that the therapist / other person would say exactly what's on their mind, unfiltered?
Or, would you prefer that they apply some sort of filter?
If a filter, what are the general circumstances under which you'd prefer a filter?
I used to be a huge fan of the Totally-Unfiltered option but I'm no longer sure I have the stomach to deal with it.
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I put it depends, as I don't want someone necessarily filtering their opinion if I ask them straight out what they think about X. I am putting that in a close friendship scenario. But saying that, I think them bluntly spitting out whatever their brain is thinking at that exact moment might be harmful, so maybe some filtering needs to happen.
In therapy, I appreciate her carefully filtering her words. Sometimes I want to be like "Just tell me! I can handle it!," but mostly I know I probably couldn't. She is honest with what she thinks, but with certain topics she is careful because she doesn't want to trigger me into the downward spiral I can easily go into.