In therapy (and applies as well, to stuff outside of therapy) --

Do you wish that the therapist / other person would say exactly what's on their mind, unfiltered?

Or, would you prefer that they apply some sort of filter?

If a filter, what are the general circumstances under which you'd prefer a filter?

I used to be a huge fan of the Totally-Unfiltered option but I'm no longer sure I have the stomach to deal with it.