Thanks. Yes, it can be easy to just assume, "Oh they're married, they must have amazing sex." Or other things, like they must be so happy and supportive of each other. But, both in my experience and in talking to some married friends...that's probably more the exception than the rule, especially if there are kids, particularly if they've been married/together a long time.

It's easy to think in general that our T's (or other people in general) have perfect lives. So I think it can help to have a dose of reality, to think they likely have their own struggles. And, this isn't what you were asking about, but is something that came up for me with ex-MC: While they might be really kind and caring to us in session, they're likely not that way in real life, all the time. It's not like their family/friends get the clients' version of the T all the time. Like ex-MC told me once that in real life, he's an a-hole, so I probably wouldn't want to hang around him. He said later that he was exaggerating, but he's also shared stories of screaming at his children and (now late) wife, seeming very different from the gentle, caring person he could be in session (though I did get to see a bit of that side of him when we had a rupture in December...)