I have recently confided to three of my friends that I have a problem with food. I’ve not gone into extreme detail with them about it, only that this is the third time I am suffering with this. I don’t expect 24/7 attention from them, but having a supportive friend to talk to means a lot, especially when the bad days hit.

I have known this group of friends since I was 16-17. Two have been supportive when I needed someone to talk to. I have been supportive back to them, asking them about their day and giving a shoulder to lean on when they too felt down and had bad days.

However, one friend I can’t stand at the moment. Mainly due to the fact that she acts like she could care less. She stops talking for weeks, then last night she suddenly messages me. Okay, all was good then. I too engaged in conversation with her. She suddenly talks about how she misses her boyfriend, saying that it’s too long of a wait until she see’s him again. I did my best to comfort her and reassure her. Until this morning, I open up a tiny bit about how I’m feeling at the moment with the things I’m dealing with.

She changed the subject fairly quickly back to herself and her problem with her boyfriend. When that happened, it kind of dawned on me that she possibly doesn’t care about how I’m feeling. At that moment in time, I had to leave the conversation.

We have had conflicts with this person once before, because she refused to talk to me one time. Eventually, one of our friends confronted her about it, telling her to get off her high horse. It ended up being something that was easily resolved, though she chose to drag it out for weeks even though I tried reaching out to her to sort the problem out, 1-2 weeks before she got confronted over it.

I don’t expect her or anyone else to ‘save me’, but when someone is having a bad day and they are feeling overwhelmed, it doesn’t cost anything to listen. Even if they have to take it in turns. Anyway, this was more of a rant than anything.