I'm sorry about your loss. Regardless of whose decision it was to end the relationship, it still hurts. You have to mourn it. Do what you can. Feel as much as you need to for the loss you've experienced. It's tough and perplexing in situations when you still have fond memories of the person and yet you were completely incompatible.

I've experienced this alot in the relationships I've initiated. I still have good memories regardless of the person not being good for me. A loss is a loss. In the end, you'll find yourself a much stronger partner for the next woman you meet.

What I think is worth acknowledging is that you were able to stay grounded to your own healthy boundaries and that's extremely admirable. This will be hard but perhaps you can take some small comfort in knowing yourself and trusting in yourself enough that you can make such difficult decisions for your overall betterment.

Don't feel alone in this. Stay strong