Hello Madsie: I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

I'm sorry I don't know why you are having the experience you are having. And unfortunately, try as I might, I could not find anything, either in PsychCentral's archives or on the internet in general, that addressed this kind of concern.

Sometimes such mental health conditions as depression & anxiety can blunt a person's ability to experience emotions. (Psych medications will also do it.) Or I suppose there could be some experience, or experiences, you had growing up that caused this. Or perhaps you simply haven't found the right guy yet... nice as the guys you've met recently may be. This is the sort of thing people sometimes see therapists to decipher. It may simply be that you're going to have to do something such as this in order to figure out what's going on here.

In the meantime, hopefully other members, here on PC, will have some similar experiences they can share. My best wishes to you...