My parents are old and not doing well. My mother hit her head on the hard floor and refuses to go to the ER or see a doctor. My mother's number of accidents are increasing. Two months ago, she fell off the ladder and hit her leg. Prior to this, she fell off the chair while standing on it and putting the dishes away. Then, before this, her legs buckled while she was at the post office and she fell on her back etc. My father is still working but cannot take care of himself and his needs. I cannot do anything because I'm in another country and was hoping my brother would be more responsible for their well-being. He is not and is acting like a child wanting them to take care of him. The whole situation is sad. I tried to help my father while he was here but he acts selfish and orders me around. I had a hard time with him here because he does nothing to help himself and expects me to serve him like a maid. I was glad when he left but am unhappy he is not able to care for himself yet is working which could be dangerous. I am worried to death about them. My brother is a fool to think they are doing well and can take care of him. He is feeling pressure from their declining health and is ignoring their condition as if it will go away if he ignores it. I am at a loss what to do. The situation right now is not good for them. My mother makes no sense about anything. She is in her mid-80s and wants to work. She wants to go to college now and write a thesis. Her prior education is lacking. She is in no condition to write a thesis at least for now. She has never worked outside the house. I don't know where she is getting these ideas when her health is declining. My father ignores her and wants to work still although he expects her to take care of the house and him still while realizing her health is not good. Something has to give. I feel for my mother's situation about wanting to go back to school and go to work. But, it is not possible for now given her condition. Her ideas are becoming more grandiose as her health is declining. I know it is time to let them be and allow them to do what they want. However, they are not making the best decisions for themselves and I am wondering if my brother realizes they are in a train wreck waiting to happen. I don't want it to happen as long as I can prevent it. But, they think I'm the ill one with no common sense. I make no sense etc. I am livid at their criticism and their nonsense about their situation. They worked hard all of their lives. But, it is now time to retire and rest or at least do something more feasible and not something that involves the whole family sacrificing their time for my father's work etc. I am worried and can do nothing but watch and cringe. Does anybody have any suggestions about dealing with their elderly parents who are not able to make good decisions for themselves? Thank you!