Thanks every one for your responses. My kids have complained when we've fought in front of them... we really try not to, but I get your points that it's not a positive thing for kids to be around an unhappy couple. I don't really view us as an unhappy couple, but agree that they rarely see affection between us. I have not talked with my parents or other family about this because I don't want them to hold anything against my wife, but now might be the time to do that. @ Skeezyks... I haven't checked out your links yet, but will do that shortly.