Did your dr ever mention a D&C? Both my maternal gram and mom had those. They both had had fibroids with extensive bleeding and that was the first course of action for both of them. I haven't quite reached the ages where they had these experiences. And not to say that it must pass down mother to daughter. I do know my paternal gram had had a hysterectomy. At the same time, the story goes there was an undeveloped still born scenario with her. We're really only in an era of more openness where women's health is concerned and addressed.
I hear Lauries point about cardiac health and hysterectomy. I think I read it can also affect bone health.
Hoping you can find comfort soon.
Oh, I think menopause is averaging around/after 50-ish.