hmmm..... well i use sex as more of a "get to know you" kinda thing. i had sex with 9 guys by the time i turned 19. i dont see kissing as having to be in love with someone. or sex for that matter. thats all personal opinion though. if he is persistant like that and it bugs you, then hes probably not right for you. there are tons of guys out there who are terrified to kiss on the first or even fifth date. most guys are brought up thinking that thats how things work. why do you think kissing means that he would control you?

my biggest problem with sex ed now a days is that they tell you that your virginity is something that guys "take" from you. its yours. no one can take it. you give it to them. if him kissing you gives him control.... why wouldnt it be you having control over him also? why does it have to be able control at all? sounds like you have some issues separating sex from control. why, im not sure of because i dont know you. but for some reason you associate kissing someone with having control over you. when really, you deciding to kiss someone, is you having control over your own body.