No, my T does not operate that way. I would also feel hurt if she acted as though I was supposed to somehow be able to control myself. My DID is a deep source of shame for me, and I would feel further shamed by my inability to "speak" for the others. If I could do that, I wouldn't really need her involved. Well, maybe I would, but I wouldn't be such a mess, I don't think. The most she has ever done was to ask me to let her know if I feel like I'm going away during times when she has been trying to talk to me about what someone else has said to her. She says it's not that someone else coming is a bad thing, and she can talk to them, it's just that in that particular session we're both working toward me learning about something specific, and that can't happen if I leave. So that doesn't make me feel like she's just sick and tired of dealing with my craziness.