I know, but your t knows that your sister is unstable right now. Im saying, maybe shes drawing the boundary because of your sister. If your sister were COMPLETELY stable, your t wouldnt draw the line. She trusts you with her vacation but she doesnt trust your sister not to mess it up.

When my mother died, my t was leaving for vacation like the next day or two. He was not going to be available to be contacted for the funeral. I was like, ten years we've been well not exactly waiting for this day, but ya know. It was okay. Hes in my head. You know your t is there for you.